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Welcome to Beyond Black & White, the official blog for the upcoming, under-construction, and under sure to be a hellion, The Black Woman’s Guide to Interracial & Intercultural relationships. The is the first true guidebook for black women who seek to expand their dating options with other races and cultures.

This blog will contain a little of everything.  Thoughts about the book, perhaps some excerpts, ravings and rants with a few profiles from folks who have happily coupled despite mix-matched melanin.

But mostly, the blog is about community.  My goal is that women will find support for their choices, as well as strategies for relationship success.  What you read may inspire you, make you angry, encourage you, or just make your reach for the Jack Daniels.  In any case, welcome!

18 Comments leave one →
  1. MDR permalink
    May 30, 2010 12:10 pm

    Hello Chris, First, I’d like to congratulate you on taking this leap of faith. Taking this movement past the rumor mills to an in your face discussion and taking those insensitive stairs and turning it into a vehicle of empowerment.

    Let me also say that I am 100% supportive if you not just because you are family, but because of how relevant this topic is and and
    how much needed this topic is. Although, my own “prince charming” happens to be AA (your brother), my immediate family looks like the “Rainbow Coalition” too, thanks in part to my brother and nieces and nephews who have found their princes and princesses in another shade on the rainbow spectrum.

    Sis, I love you and cannot wait til this “movement” takes flight. Although, the topic is not something I can relate to personally, I DO know what it’s like to be the “lady in waiting” for my PC and hoping he looks like me. You and I have had this discussion before…had your brother not come knocking, I was just at that point where my mind was opening up to the possibility of love in another shade. God had other plans for me though. I recognize that when your heart flutters it’s the personality and compassion of the man that we are attracted to and there are so many things more important
    than the color of ones skin.

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      May 30, 2010 12:23 pm

      Thanks, Sis. I love you, and thanks for all your support. You’re a wonderful cheerleader!

  2. A.C. permalink
    May 31, 2010 3:13 pm

    Just read your blogs. They are quite inspiring. Keep doing what you do!

  3. Karen Thompson permalink
    June 3, 2010 9:24 pm

    GLad I found this blog!

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      June 3, 2010 9:27 pm

      Glad you did, too!

  4. funkystarkitty50 permalink
    June 9, 2010 10:34 pm

    I LOVE this site!!! I am happy to see more blogs like this. Thank You!!!

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      June 9, 2010 10:39 pm

      Thank you, thank you. I’ll be here all week. Tell your friends!

  5. June 16, 2010 7:20 am

    I’m in and spreading the word! Here’s the a new decade of LOVED black women.

  6. Karen R. permalink
    June 17, 2010 8:30 pm

    Hi, I have just found you at Black Women Deserve Better. I hope AA women in droves purchase your upcoming book.

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      June 17, 2010 8:50 pm

      Thank you so much! I hope so too. Welcome to the community!

  7. Robin Henson permalink
    June 24, 2010 6:48 am

    Thanks Chris I really enjoy your blogs…They are very inspiring and they help me a lot since I’m now in an Interracial Marriage….keep writing and I’ll keep reading

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      June 24, 2010 8:56 am

      Congratulations on your marriage and welcome to our community!

  8. June 30, 2010 3:29 am

    Congratulations and lovely blog!

    • randomthoughtsfromcali permalink*
      June 30, 2010 6:39 am

      Thanks so much for visiting!

  9. July 5, 2010 3:16 pm

    New format, huh? You didn’t have to get all gussied up for us, but we sure do appreciate it. 🙂

    • Christelyn permalink*
      July 5, 2010 3:19 pm

      Actually, you might see even more changes. You see, while I write the book I decidedly will not be doing any magazine gigs. So…I’m hoping that I can generate a few bucks in advertising. Would that gross everyone out, or what? I’m kinda nervous about it.

  10. BlkQueenBee permalink
    July 6, 2010 6:51 pm

    I’m cool with the advertising as long as it is not those flashing kind or pop-ups. etc.

  11. BlkQueenBee permalink
    July 6, 2010 6:57 pm

    BTW, just as a heads-up, when I comment it almost always shows up right away, but, sometimes, it doesn’t show up at all. When I do it again, it gives me a system warning message something along the lines of “it looks like you’re already said that”.

    But it still isn’t showing as a comment. It’s strange. Just thought I’d let you know, don’t know if those comments are going into a spam filter or what on your end.

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